Category: Dating and Relationships
How do you know if your crossing the line between being friends and being more than just friends? Like is it just mutual understanding or theres more to it?
Well, in my opinion, it's all in the communication and the time you spend with that person. like if that person is going to have his/her arm around you in a more than friendly way, and is going to pay you frequent compliments, then it may be more obvious and easy to read and indicate by the signs and actions.
Sometimes things are just seemless and you become more than friends without knowing an official date or time. However, I'd say communication is the key as scarey as it may be. I was once interested in this girl and I thought her actions said the same, but when I brought it up she told me that she wasn't interested. That was quite a blow. If I could do it all over again, I would would ask up front so I would know how to proceed with the relationship.
it's really difficult to judge sometimes. I think so. Because it's hard to filter out what you want, from what is actually happening. Sometimes signs are there to read, but everything is open to interpretation. Trouble is if you read it in the way you want to see it rather than how it is in actuality, that's the hard part sometimes.
It's not esy to tell in some cases. You just kind of ease gently from one state to the other and you may not notice for a while until that little light in your heads just comes on so to speak.
well its sort of confusing but if you read it how its supposed to be read then your good. but for the most part some signs are mixed. lol. can't tell whats really going on and you just have to wait and see.
It's all in the mannerisms
yeah I must be a really crappy reader I just lately had a freind wow she knows more about me than probably anybody does in the state of Tn. and I have been acused of likeing her several times but I denied it I didn't start thinking of her like that untill I was acused of it but I still denied it for along time then a few weeks ago I finally told her the truth which I knew better than to do so now we are not talking she does have a boyfriend but I didn't tell her cause I thought felt the same way but because I didn't like lying to her then she acused me of trying to hurt her and her boyfriends relationship so sadly we dont talk anymore most of the time it is hard for me to be anywhere around her it is all I can do to not smack the smirk off her face but then again stuff like that is the story of my life I have lost many of what I concider to be good friends by getting over my head with them I guess I just hoped that she would be different and not avoid me like the plague after that but I was wrong if I had it to do all over again I dont know what I would do probably the same thing because it showed me that we had a one sided relationship I was there for her when she needed to talk but she never really was for me oh well you live and you learn I just hope I start to learn one day soon ever since it seams like every where I turn there is couples stuff and I just cant get away from it although I am slowly getting over it and I know I will one day
Oh man, she definitely did not like you for your use of punctuation.
If I were that concerned, I'd simply ask. The best way to know is to bring it out in the open and to not assume. That way, the relationship can grow if there's meant to be one and the friendship and hearts can be saved if there's not.
It's not always appropriate to ask. If it were that easy, I'm sure there'd be a lot less mixed messages with many friendship/relationships in this world. Asking surely makes things awkward. I have this really good guy friend i was kind of interested for a long time, and he used to say and do things to make me think he liked me as more than a friend, but I'd never say anything. Turns out he did like me but didn't wanna pursue anything because he was moving away. Then it's also happened that I again, never said anything when a guy was giving me all the signals..and then I find out he liked some other girl the whole time and was just a really caring flirt I guess? lol god, things get so complicated. Then sometimes noone wants to say anything even if both highly suspect the other feels the same way, but pride along with sometimes along with fear get in the way of anyone speaking up. It's not like in the movies that the guy could always just out of nowhere kiss the girl who was his friend forever and they start dating and get married and live happily ever after..
I'd rather ask and get it over with, especially if either I have feelings or think my friend has feelings for me. Then again, I've always been the type to make the first move. And no, you might not get married but you might have alot of fun along the way. So long as you play it safe and really know the person (i.e. no hidden marriages or anything) it usually works out for the best. And if you really are good friends and one of you got the wrong idea, at least the person with the feelings won't have to walk on eggshells cause it's out in the open. The best thing to do after that is to just move forwards, either as friends or as partners, or in some cases, to just forget it. But at least it was said with no regrets.
I know that for me, it can jsut happen. Like one minute we'll be really good friends, and then that turns into a whole different thing, and like other people said it's all about the communication and time u spend getting to know that person
Sometimes, even if you plan on it being only a little more than friends, you could wind up in a full-blown relationship. That's what happened with my bf and I. We started out as friends with benefits and then truly fell in love with each other and have now been together a little over two years.
I dont use punctuations very offten the way my brain works is it thinks stuff really fast and then I loose it so when I am writeing stuff like that it is a race to get it all down before I compleatly loose it and trying to and punctuations to would be just a bunch more dots and marks that would definitely not be in the right place so I just rarely ever use them in stuff like that besides that I suck at grammer and spelling if you haven't noticed but yeah it sucks I haven't decided wheather I regret telling her or not the thing with me is that my friends are scattered around the state of Tennessee and she actually lives close and I went and hung out with her alot other than when I did that I am prety much at home I dont have a real job my dad is not in good health so I stay home with him to make sure he is safe and allright and that leaves very little time to leave town to go see friends and with her I could go hang out for the day and get out of my house and for now I just dont have that type of thing anymore maybe one day we will patch up our friendship but I know that it wont ever be like it was for someone that says she knows me it kinda surprises me that she really thinks that I did what I did to try to hurt her and her boyfirends relaitionship I think that is one of the things that stings the most
I just thought of something if I had it to do all over again yes I would still tell her but I would not go about it in the way I did. The way I did it was through email what I now take to be a cowardly way every time I think of it I wish more and more I had had the guts to tell her face to face but I didn't so yes there are things that I regret but as far as to say that I regret telling her I dont that much maybe alittle but not much. Just something I thought worth putting out here
There's this guy I've been friends with for years. 12 to be exact. I have more than friendly feelings for him, but haven't told him yet. I want to go about it in a way that won't ruin our friendship, but don't know how. I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same about me, that I feel for him. How do I get over him?
Well, first, cowboy guy, I think your biggest mistake was telling her while she was in a relationship. That is not a good time to tell a girl you like them romantically, it doesn't end well. After they've broken up is better, though some would call it minipulative.
Tigerlily. Trying to get over someone can be one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do, especially if you have very strong feelings for them, and there is no possibility of them being in your life anymore. My best suggestion to you would be to bury yourself in something. I wrote a book, that's how I got over someone once, and entire novel, that's how long it took me to get over her.
The cold hard truth is, sometimes you may never completely get over them, and that's ok. The best thing you can do is give it time, and keep looking for others. However, when looking for others, don't compare them to the first person, if you do that you'll never be happy. That's my suggestion.
As for the orriginal poster, its different with every friend. I'm pretty obvious about whether I like someone as only a friend or more than a friend, its not hard with me, but with some people it might be. So its all a matter of knowing your friend, and reading the signs they put up to be read.
I know with some people, the more they don't want said friend to find out about their feelings, the more obvious they become. that's not always the case, but it can be.
i thinkwaiteing is a good thing. smiles.
Wow, this is almost exactly how I felt before my boyfriend and I started dating. When we first met, my interest was peaked, but I wanted to know him better before I went for it. Unfortunately, he started dating someone else a few days later, leading me to believe that he never thought of me as anything more than a friend. Well, according to him, I was wrong to think that because he found me extremely attractive, but was too nervous to say anything. So anyways, their relationship started going downhill , and we started texting and hanging out way more, and it turned out that one of the times we were hanging out I was extremely sleep deprived and not thinking too much about the consequences of my actions and started kinda sitting closer to him and doing subtle little flirty things. This continued a few days until I finally cracked and told a mutual friend of ours how I felt and begged him to find out if he felt the same, which he did. So then he broke up with his girlfriend, and a month or so later, we became official.
I guess the bottom line would be that you will never really know unless you try, so start out with subtle hints, then get more heavy on the hints. Then perhaps communicate clearly what the hints mean, and see what happens.
And sometimes no matter how much you like someone, sometimes all they ever want to be is just friends.
To heck with subtle hints. OK, actually that's not true. I think with friendship it's very risky. I've never developed feelings for one of my friends. However, I'm the kind of person who is pretty honest, but I do realize that sometimes it's really hard to tell a friend you like them because you don't want to ruin that friendship. Years ago, I met my best guy friend, and I had a crush on him for a while. Well, a few weeks ago, he told me that when we first met, he liked me which was funny. Over all, we're both glad we didn't date because we're just better off as friends.
its funny I saw this topic. just went threw this, but this story has a happy ending. we got together yesterday. :)
I have spent the most part of 2 months talking to him. heytelling between his classes and when we're out. talking 8 hours some nights. really getting to no each other, really finding out how much we had in common, really connecting. I liked him, I wanted to tell him. but, I'm a coward. I've never asked someone before they've always asked me. but I new he hadn't had a lot of experience with girls and the last girl it went very wrong so I new he had more of a right to be afraid.
so I did probably something that a lot of people would call immature and got a couple friends to ask him if he liked me, he told them he did and he would ask me probably once he got to no me better so I thought. oh good at least I didn't ask to early and make both of us feel awkward but, I still wanted to be with him and I hoped it would be relatively soon.
well v day kept coming up and we both would talk about how we wanted it to go away. haha. a few people had been doing everything they could to keep us from talking and it kind of got to me yesterday. so we talked about it and got a lot of things cleared up and, he actually got the courage to ask me. haha, I was thrilled. but I no how it feels to wonder about the line between friends and more, just kind of standing on it wondering what side you should be on, noing the one you want to be on but. communacation can be hard when your both shy and nervis about what the other one will say. but sometimes it can end good. it doesn't always have to be a miss understanding thank god. :) happy v day everyone
that's the point I'm in lack with. I'm hyper-active as per the text communication. but a chewing gum while it comes to audio. I'll keep on swallowing what I wana ask.
Raaj.